Husband as a Spiritual Mentor
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“The spiritual mentor [Shaykh] attends to the spiritual enhancement of the mureed [disciple]. However, a normal spiritual mentor who accepts bay’t is insufficient to attend to the spiritual needs of the woman. The spiritual mentor is not available to them at all times.
They require a spiritual mentor of the house, the husband. This type of spiritual mentor, i.e. the husband, is more beneficial to her than the other categories of spiritual mentors. And his status is also more superior than the others.
What a nice spiritual mentor this household spiritual mentor is. Apart from attending to your Deeni requirements, he also provides food etc. for you. He takes the responsibility of both the Deen as well as the dunyaa. These characteristics wouldn’t be found in a normal spiritual mentor. There is no worldly benefit to be derived from him. In fact, offerings [of gifts etc.] have to be made over to [some of] them.
Also, she wont be able to derive as much Deeni benefit from him as she would derive from her husband. A normal spiritual mentor will only be able to guide you when you enquire about something or whenever you happen to go to him. This might come about probably once in many years. Women in particular will hardly end up meeting their spiritual mentor. The husband on the other hand is always with them. He will be able to monitor every deed.
This is why I maintain that the spiritual mentor of the Ba’yt [house] is more superior than the spiritual mentor Bay’t.
[A Gift to the Husband & Wife by Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi]
In this day and age the above gives a lot of food for thought for both males and females. The importance of deeni rights owed to women are commonly neglected by menfolk, or they are not even given due importance by the woman.
May Allah swt give us the ability to rectify ourselves of this incorrect thought and implement into our lives practically the important message that Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi highlights in the above extract, Ameen.”
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